# Force Positivity
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I struggle with happiness..
I think we all do.. and I don’t think a lot of people talk about it because… There’s no in between!
I think it’s either you’re happy or you’re depressed! But what if you’re just fine?
There’s times where I feel really happy but at that time I also know this is temporary and I’m gonna go back to just fine. And there’s times where I feel unhappy and I know it’s gonna go back to normal. I’m never constantly happy because that would just be INSANE. I don’t think anyone is constantly happy, except for some are genuinely happy and positive, those are type of people everyone want to be around with.
But forcing positivity… it’s exhausting!
Just pretending that having fun! But people bought it! But I also realized was it’s extremely soul crushing!
I’m just gonna have to be more honest! I think the reason why it bothers me so much, it’s because it’s fake! You’re forcing positivity, it’s not real! Maybe it might be just a pesonal thing but I value honesty more than happiness.
I think all these Hollywood movies, all these stories that are fiction. It’s not a real, it’s not representative of reality!
By sending out the message that our thougts are responsible for creating our health, well-being, and reality, we are overvaluing the power of our thoughts, while making people feel culpable when something bad happens to them. They feel it is because they weren’t positive enough. We must have some practice dealing with those emotions or we will caught off guard and forcing strongly on happiness is just gonna us less resilient.
Emotions like sadness, guilt, grief and anger are many of our values. We don’t get angry about things we don’t care about. We don’t feel sad or guilty about stuff we don’t care about. If we push these emotions away, we are choosing not to learn about ourselves. We are choosing to ignore our values and what is important to us. When we tell ourselves to “think positive” and to push negative or difficult emotions aside, it won’t work. It’s doesn’t work.
I’m not telling you “don’t go and be happy” and I’m not gonna pretend like I know what will make anyone happy. If you wanna be happy and you’re struggling with happiness. Just know that you’re not the only one!
It’s fine! It’s fine not being happy all the time!